Raleigh - 2 Months

In one month Raleigh went from tiny fragile newborn to chunky smiling and vocal. He's so fun at this age and here's a bit about him!

This was him right at the beginning of his 2nd month, just a lot of sleeping. Lots of days my milk couldn't keep up with him so I was doing lactation tea around the clock, waited to work out or do anything that might effect the supply, pumped, AND still gave him a few formula bottles a week. Happily even with the struggle he chunked right up! At this 2 month appointment he was 12.5 pounds and had grown like three inches. His head is his biggest percentile and those furrowed brows still kill us all.

He loves showers with dad,
 his brothers light him up and we recently noticed he is super drawn to Mickey Mouse. So we love showing him Mickey Mouse on the TV and sure enough he is a Mickey fan at 2 months old. Ha. He'll give us laughs when he gets worked up and we love him so freaking much it hurts. He's our world and everyone lives for Raleigh time.

I moved him to his crib this month and then he got a runny nose and was up like every hour. Awful! So I moved him back to my bed where he sleeps 4 hours stretches. As if it wasn't hard enough to move him to his crib its gonna be really hard to move him now!
Hello chunkers!!

The lips though.


If you just look at Raleigh he bursts into a full face smile. It creeps up in the corner of that mouth and just busts wide open. He can't be contained and I can't stop staring in case I miss one.
The kid can sleeeeep. Not necessarily all at once, but he still sleeps a ton. It seems like he's only up for 20 min- 1 hour before he's ready to go back down. A true Frame!

His first campfire.
His brothers are still obsessed with him. They make it so fun! And annoying some times like literally the back of two blond heads in my face all the time while he's eating.

Its been super interesting but I am sort of anti taking pictures of him. At least like the posed ones, I just can't do it. I just want to hold him and take candids and pretend the online world doesn't exist. Like seeing Snapchat filters on babies breaks my heart. I can't explain it! He's too pure for this stupid world and I can't let him participate in the BS. Does that make any sense? I took these two though and of course they're cute. Maybe I'll grow out of it?


Cal's 5th Birthday Party

Cal's favorite people in the world are his cousins. They're his #1 friends and since they had a vacation planned, it ended up that his birthday party needed to be the day before Bijou. Oof! So we kept it super simple invited and did a family party + August ;) and went to this super cool climbing place called Funtopia. They had a blast!

There's this structure where they have to do a leap to grab either a stuffed bag or a bar. So proud watching my boys conquer their fears. 


Cal at 5

Cal is 5! What the absolute heck?! It felt like he was 4 for 100 years but for some reason being 5 sounds so crazy old to me. Here's a bit about Cal at 5:

He is the most beautiful swimmer. That ballerina body might actually be a swimmer body instead. He did lessons this Summer and has progressed so much! 

Cal is still the funniest. He has a very natural sense of humor that is so effortless and lots of times kids trying to be funny just means they're being annoying, but Cal is actually funny to me on an adult level. He always has been and I don't know what that will mean for his future but we enjoy it so much around these parts.
First day of preschool. He enjoyed preschool, even as my introvert, he had a couple friends he really liked - Nate and Persephone and Weston. He has one more year of pre-k and then he'll be Kindergarten! We opted to have him be old for his grade and I still feel really good about that decision. He'll be starting a more academic 4 day a week pre-k and thinking that is the best transition possible.
He is such a lover, cuddly, snuggly and loves to lay by mom and dad and Raleigh. He is super sensitive to things that are scary (and things that aren't scary like a recording of a lion roaring, going to the bathroom alone etc.) He is sensitive to energies it seems too and gets tired and needs down time a lot after being around people. He doesn't like kids in his personal space and is really just a textbook introvert minus that he LOVES to be the center of attention at our house.

He is in his own world lots of the time. Pretend fighting, Hulk Smashing, lots of play fighting. I catch him doing this all day long. Like below:

So silly, and never smiling normal:

And let's not forget his naughty side. The kid is so crass, every thing is a butt joke. I told him he needed new material and he said "How bout weiners?" He is constantly saving up toots to rip on his dad, has dance moves that would make a stripper blush. He actually has a move called the weiner guitar where he strums his junk like he's playing an air guitar. I just don't know man, he's a trip! Ive put him in time out a million times his naughtiness but he is undeterred.
I put him in time out earlier this year and came into the room to find this ...
He's complicated and complex and a multi dimensional little dude. He's so many things. and reminds me of that Walt Whitman poem, "I'm large, I contain multitudes" we're only scratching the surface with this kiddo.

Since adding a little sibling Cal has changed so much! It was like before when he was the youngest and with Hayes being so unassuming, he got lots and lots of attention. Everyone was trying to get him to engage with them and he could care less. So many people told me all the time that they just wanted Cal to acknowledge them. He's too cool for school! But, now that he's the middle child I've seen him make more of an effort to be noticed, he actually tries to converse with people, and is more assertive about being noticed and heard. How grateful am I for siblings and birth order, without this change he'd never have to grow and adapt and progress and its been great to watch! Of course I feel bad a lot since he doesn't get as much attention as he once did, but overall it's been great!

Cal's expression before meeting Raleigh:

Meeting Raleigh was iffy and stayed that way for a few days after we brought him home. Cal was super excited to see him but didn't really want to go near him or touch him. I could not figure out why and it was breaking my heart! Finally we realized that first, the umbilical cord freaked Cal out. So once that fell off he'd go a little closer. But then we realized that he also didn't like Raleigh to be in just a diaper, which was tricky since Raleigh was on the bili-bed and had to be in a diaper all day and night. BUT as soon as Raleigh was dressed Cal became obsessed and still is. He's constantly commenting on how cute he is, "I like his nose" "I like his pajamas" He wants to lay by him talk to him pet his head. He is his biggest fan! HE came in one night late and said he "just wanted to sweep wif Ra-wee.


Raleigh - 1 Month

How can it already be a month since Raleigh came? He was born at 36 weeks and 6 days at 7'5 and at his last weigh-in was 9'4. I love that he is chunking up!

First photo!

Some things I want to remember about Raleigh at 1 Month:

He is THE loudest. He rarely cries, but he grunts and makes all manner of noises all day and night. he sounds like Evenrude from the Rescuers if that helps at all. It makes it really nice because I know exactly when he has a burp, toot or wants to poop. He lets you know! He only cries when he's overly hungry but other wise is such a nice baby.

The first photo Hayley took. Cal was so nervous and excited!

First full family photo on our way to the bath! The boys couldn't go in so they were seriously freaking out tapping on the glass and waving every three seconds.

He's so handsome I can't get over it. He has this big juicy upper lip and he still sort of tucks his bottom lip under. He's got a perfect little head and tiny ears and big hands and bird legs.

He smiles so big already, each time I get him up from a nap he gives us all the biggest smile. Just like in my tummy is a flailer. His arms and legs are constantly in movement even when he sleeps. It was so rough because for the handful of days he was on the bilibed obviously you can't swaddle him so he was just jolting himself awake every 5 seconds. I started sleeping him on his stomach in the bed and it was so much better. Of course he prefers it still and maybe we lost our window for swaddling because he is not a fan of that. Three for three Frame brothers are stomach sleepers! It does stress me out a bit but he sleeps next to me and I keep a close eye.  I don't worry as much though because his neck is wicked strong. And he often switches which side his head is resting through the night, readjusts his arms etc.

Every ultrasound we had his hands were up by his face. That remains true outside the womb:

As for me, this has been my smoothest recovery. I had such amazing energy, was seriously high on life and everything has been wonderful. I haven't felt any baby blues and I attrubte that to him only being on the bili bed for 4 days. Not being able to hold Hayes and Cal whenever I wanted for those first three weeks broke me in half and I am so grateful for that time with Raleigh. I was super adamant about his levels being tested ASAP in the hospital, they put him in the lights during our stay and I did formula whenever possible so his levels never got high even though I found out later he (and likely Hayes and Cal) had breastmilk jaundice. Where my milk is keeping them from processing their bili out and there's not much you can do except formula and /or wait it out. Good to know! (Sarcasm.)

I remember when Cal was tiny, like a few weeks old I had both him and Hayes in the car with me and I kept having the feeling that I was forgetting someone, forgetting a kid. I kept looking behind me to make sure they were there. I have had that feeling countless times since, like someone was missing. I feel so much more complete with Raleigh here. He has stolen all our hearts and what a miracle and blessing to have three healthy kids. I pray so hard everyday that they'll continue to grow healthy and strong.

Raleigh continues to enjoy showers with dad, seems to have an extra noticeable response toward Cal, is absolutely smothered by Hayes. Hayes is such a great helper and wants to hold him all the time. He talks to him so sweetly and never wants him to be sad or uncomfortable. Cal was dicey the first few days which made me so sad, but then we figured out AFTER the fact that the umbilical cord freaked him out. Since Raleigh was in a diaper all the time for the bili-bed Cal didn't want to go near him. Too funny. Once it fell off and he started wearing clothes Cal changed his tune and is equally obsessed.

Doing the Lion King thing - big hit.