happy fourth hayesie!

Russ and I were filling out paperwork one night and he asked what time the boys were born. Without a flinch of hesitation I said 11:12 pm and 5:05 pm. Two of the most momentous minutes of my whole life, not easy to forget. 

Today is Hayes' 4th birthday, gosh that is crazy! He seems so much older than 4 to me. He had to grow up quick with the baby brother on his heels, I suppose. Or it could be that he's as tall as some 6 year olds. Or it could be that he uses my own logic against me all day long. 
But either way, 4 he is. I wanted to type out some things about Hayes at 4 years old that stick out in my mind...
(this is unrelated to anything, but taken while i was on a run. he asked to run beside me and then looked back, and for some reason that face is burned into my memory. it makes me ache with love for him, and i don't even know why.)
First and foremost, his absolute love and joy for babies. I went through my phone and grabbed just a small assortment of the pictures I have of him loving on the littles. I knew he loved babies, because whenever he's around his tiny cousins, or our friends' babies he has no interest in anything else.
His friend Gus could be begging him to play Star Wars with Light Sabers and a king size candy bar, and Hayes would rather hold Gus' baby brother Boss. I've stopped timing Hayes holding a baby at 30+ minutes. He never gets tired of it. 
It wasn't until we went to Newport Beach and rented a house with Russ' buddies and their families that it became super obvious.
Having 4 tiny babies around for a whole week, he was in absolute Heaven.

I wish I could have all their parents back me up, because otherwise it just sounds like I'm bragging, when really it's just stating facts. 
Here's what we heard literally all week long 
"Oh mom look Sunny's awake, lets go kiss her!'
"Mom Covey is done eating, can you ask if I hold him again?" 
Sharing all his food and cars with Henry, constantly pestering their parents to hold, burp, make faces at,  get blankets for their own kids. It is something to behold!

Some other things about Hayesie:
He's obsessed with toys, and purchasing new toys. We make a new chart every week filled with different tasks he needs to complete so he can go buy a new toy. I was so this kid growing up, and I'm glad that we've found a system where he's actually earning it, otherwise he'd be the most spoiled child alive.

 Recites the Pledge of Allegiance "One Mation under God..."
Is reading tiny words like hat, bat etc.
And generally really loving and thriving in preschool.
Is turning into SUCH a tease. he teases Cal all day long. most of it's absolutely harmless, but Cal is derived from a screech owl and gives Hayes the most outrageous reactions which motivates Hayes even more.
Obsessed with the color red. Everything must be red. His cups, bowls, his clothing - he asked for red pants, red shirts, red socks, red belts, red hats for his birthday - and has laid claim on every red object in our home. i bought him the most gorgeous quilt for his big boy bed and he would have none of it because it was mostly blue. 
i can usually coerce him into working with other colors if i tell him that that color represents a super hero. then he'll think about it.

as i said earlier, he just recently moved into a big boy bed and only at the end of 2013 were we able to finally ditch the pacifier at night time. i knew we'd need a big event to motivate him to choose to get rid of the "chi-chi" and that event would have to have rewards that continued to motivate him for a week or so after. Christmas it is.
i always said i wouldn't push Santa Clause on my kids, but I said I wouldn't do a lot of things, so just know I'm not entirely proud of it.

The story went that Santa Clause wanted to bring him the big boy presents he was asking for (Color Changers tracks, hot wheels tracks respectively) but in exchange he'd need to give his pacifier to a baby who needed it more. I asked him so many times if he'd want to do that. every time he said yes. So, on Christmas Eve, i told him Santa Clause was coming that night and it was time to get rid of the chi chi. He handed it over and I was sick to my stomach. 
the thing is, i SOOO get it. you remember this old as dust post about my own experience at 4 years old?

but he did great. didn't cry, went right to bed. slept through the night.
opened his presents, was stoked of course, and that night, asked for his pacifier back. 
i reminded him of the deal, he wanted to keep the toys. phew!
the next day, same thing.
the next day, he said he wanted to give all the toys back for the chi chi. 
i gave him so much praise for being a big boy i thought for sure it would stick. but he was adamant. so we made another chart. charts, man. he's gonna be in therapy saying how much of a complex he has about charts i just know it. but for now it works. 
it got him through a week. asking every night for it, but being reminded about the potential reward, and choosing door number 2. finally after a solid week of asking, and often crying, for the pacifier he stopped asking. i second guessed the choice all the time, it was really hard for me to keep insisting, but he ultimately made the choice, and his teeth thank him! 

in general i often think to myself "Hayes is as good as gold." he has always tried with his whole heart to do the right thing. he is a people pleaser, which i am keeping a hawk's eye on, but i really think it's just his desire to be good. he is sweet and loving, and all the things i saw in him from when he was small small small.

he tells me everyday that he loves me, that he missed me when i was gone, did i have a good run?, did i have a good day at church?, he is so affectionate, especially to his dad. kissing his head, scratching his back, always attached at the hip. he is so wonderful and sweet.  his heart could change the world, or the world could change his heart. i worry for him, i pray for him, but i believe in him.
happiest birthday, Hayes baby Hayes. the world is yours.
Love, Mom.


noon year's eve

We loved this Noon Year's Eve party held from 11-12 in the morning/afternoon! dance party, ball drop, and a ton of fun!

Hayes rocking the macarena. Cal would get the clap in every once and awhile.

with my mom and sis. i game my mom a hard time for this because my whole life i've begged for braces but she said i didn't need them. then look at Be's and my moms. just straight as whistles.

this is the story of my life. carrying my kids crap. HAD. TO. HAVE. 
where are those balls now? 

Cal is loving his Junie Scarf, he wore it all day. I was shocked!


sled-dawgs + ice castles

the boys re-discovered their love of sledding this winter. i can't count how many mornings i was forced outside to help hayes build a "jump." here's a couple of our sledding adventures:

at my friend Kayti's. the hill leads right into the playground, Hayes got too much speed and flew off into an empty sandbox. "i broke my bum" he says.
solider hollow with the family

sledding down the driveway. they'll take their fix however they can get it.

and here's Cal after Solider Hollow and ice castles. too much for one day! his meltdowns were epic. 

Service Advent

I already wrote a bit about this on Small Fry but wanted to make sure and document it here too. 

As I said in my Christmas post, the non-stop conversations about presents and what Santa will bring everyone was wearing on me and I felt like I had to do something quick to curb the materialism and consumerism and get our hearts back on track for the purpose of Christmas.

the 25 days of service advent totally cured all that was ailing me and sort of rewired our thought process while we were at it.

after picking a way to serve someone everyday, we stopped picking items and we just kept our eyes open to how we could help others. Hayes totally lead the way, lead the conversations, and reminded me each day. it was such an awesome experience!

popcorn + cranberries for the chickens.

we made cards - i cut out the shapes but they glued everything down - and then i wrote encouraging notes on the back.

then we delivered them to windshields around town. Hayes flipped out when we saw this truck and insisted we leave them a note because ice cream guys do a good job. his words, but you can't argue!
 the pic that started it all - Hayes the kid who always has hands full of toys, a back pack full of his favorites we can't leave the house with. the one who would sooner wrestle a small toddler than share a toy - filled up two bags full of toys happily. this picture reminds me to never hold my kids back with my own assumptions about them. he's such a good kid, i definitely don't deserve his goodness.
we'll definitely be doing it next year and forevermore. find the printable here.


Christmas 2014

Christmas! This year was filled with daily conversations about Santa, what he would bring, what we're asking for, and what we would buy all our loved ones. 3 year olds at Christmas are the definition of eager.

Here's a quick look at our Christmas!

Hayes with his new bike. I couldn't help myself. Linus Bikes are the most amazing things. We're excited for it to warm up so we can sharpen are lackluster pedal skills.

Cal is the best at Christmas. He plays with each toy forever and never asks for another one. We finished Christmas with probably 8 presents of his unopened.

 Hayes on the other hand is more like his mom. Just the highest of expectations and wants more! more! MORE! this pic is of him at my mom's decked out in a hat and metallic vest (ha!) when he then opened a really thoughtful picture book and responded with a full blown fall to the ground in tears breakdown. The Book that Killed Christmas.

Christmas sleeping bags from my dad. Cal is totally nude in there. At his request.

I don't have much evidence but Christmas was ALL about the buddies. everyone was in town and we had at least 6 get togethers. no complaints here, we love every moment with them. here's us at Jace + Jenne and Covey's baby blessing. It's so awesome watching all our friends take on parenting. Really we're just thrilled they all get "it" now.

This is all I want for Christmas right here. Just a little wonder and awe and excitement.


fall, etc.

we really loved fall. really really. poor Cal is an outdoorsman, except he's fully disgusted with snow. winter might do him in.

as often as we could we had all the cousins up to our cul-de-sac from some free as birds playtime. got this pic and... poor myles.

just at a playdate but only hanging out with each other. the ushe. (how do you spell the shortened version of usual?)

we installed a retro fireplace. (we=always means russ) we can't keep the smoke in the funnel though so our whole basement smells campfire. but man it's nice to have a crackling fire!

and a couple more of hayes.

and in typical utah fashion, fall turns cold, fast.


good hair day / 9

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I am LOVING this hair tutorial today! It's so pretty and according to Salon K, super easy. Here's how they did it:

This new bride Kortni wanted a thick crown braid in her hair for her wedding but she doesn't have a lot of thickness. (Take a number, Kortni!)

They purchased hair extensions from Racoon International, but really any brand is fine if it matches your hair color. They simply banded the top of the hair, braided it, then banded the bottom.
 They gave her a good blow-out with their Bumble and Bumble thickening mousse in her roots and Surf-spray in her ends (I'm Surf-Spray's unofficial fan girl.)

Then pulling a section of hair on the top of your head up you can bobby bin it in place and then lay the hair back down over to hide the sides:

Kortni wanted an up-do for her wedding so they took the sideburn (worst word ever) pieces and covered the braid ends that way.

So pretty! 


the halloween haps

blogging about halloween the week before christmas! just keeping it classy.

Hayes rolls out of preschool with the funniest stuff. this hat is my fave!

he wouldn't take it off for a few days. it was awesome.
being festive // our accidental "F U" pumpkins. whoops.

 Cal is knee deep in the "I do it" phase. Have at it kid, pull that 30 pound wagon of pumpkins.

just feeling emotional on a hay ride. i'm blessed, we're blessed, i love my life. oh look a baby goat. cry cry cry.

Halloween is finally here.
Hayes with his buddies. Rashelle was oogie boogie and terrified all the children. too funny.

 the thing that's terrible about holidays when you're an active instagrammer is the surprise is taken out of it. half the fun is seeing people's costumes for the first time so just like a normal person would, we had different costumes for every party. totesnorms.

the annual neighborhood halloween parade.

a butter fly and a potted flower. // the candy cannon is e'ryones fave.

costume #2 - a beat and a mod. i just wanted an excuse to do twiggy eye make-up. russ was pissed, that beret!! hahaha. except he felt better when people thought he was Cody from Heavyweights.

costume #3. moral of the story i'm only dressing up on halloween from here on out. 

trick or treating! so much frickin fun!!

cue more tears while watching them be big boys and stuff.